Asking for help is easy for some and difficult for others. Sometimes asking for help can be quite empowering to help you take control of what you need doing and stop you feeling overwhelmed.
Finding like-minded people and groups that you can identify with can break the isolation of a cancer diagnosis and open up sources of support.
Give yourself permission to ask for help, and to receive it. Most people, even those who you might find difficult, want to be helpful. But not everybody knows how. Having something practical to do to support you can help your friends as well.
Your friends may be keen to help you, but not know what to do, and you may not know how to ask them either. You can use the SMART method (specific, measurable, achievable, realistic and timely) to what you need help with. For example: “It would be so helpful if you could take me to a hospital appointment for 11am next Thursday.”
Make a list of practical things you need help with such as cooking, cleaning, childcare, the garden, transport.
If someone asks if there’s anything they can do to help, show them your list!